How to act like an adult

How one little sentiment can change your mindset

Last year my sister and I decided to embark on another “diet” together. Yeah, I get that you’re not supposed to call it a diet.

We had done the Scarsdale version back in the 80s when we both lived together. Two weeks later after our self-ascribed suffering from eating BBQ chicken (as much as you want!) and sugarfree lime jello, among other things, we were each down 8 pounds or so, and called it quits.

We probably outlasted most diets by 11 days. So there’s that.

Anyways we were in our 20s, and the weight easily fell off. We had each other for support, could commiserate over our “allowed food,” and we found success in our formula of togetherness.

Fast forward 30 years (and at least as many pounds), feeling the crushing weight on our uncomfortable soul (irony intended), we decided to jump on the newer low-carb wagon of the Keto-train.

You get fired up to get started in your new lifestyle, but motivation can dwindle over time. Any restricted food change is difficult, as you plug through each day, waiting on the changes in your body, and for the pounds to fall off.

Initial success brings happiness. Yes! This might actually be working! But as the new eating lifestyle plays on, the weightloss dwindles, and so does the motivation.

Yes, slow and steady wins the race, but it can also be a demotivator.

My sister and I share thoughts and support as we ride this train, and commiserate (again) over food choices and not-so-fast success.

We’re older. We know. We know that losing weight over age 50 and age 60, for women especially, is a difficult battle. Praises to all the warriors before us!

Then one day as we’re lamenting our slow progress, (but it is progress!) and the food choices that come along with Keto, my sister says she has come to a personal decision.

She says, I just decided it’s time to be an adult about losing weight.

Wrap your brain around that for a hot minute.

This one little thing has stuck with me ever since. This one sentiment is etched on my brain forever.

And she’s right. I think that’s what it takes sometimes. You have to lift yourself up out of your thought-gutter and realize that you’re a fucking adult. Maybe it’s time to act like one.

Maybe it’s time to eat in a manner that’s like a normal, health-abiding, body-conscious adult. Other adults do it. So can you.

And conversely, maybe it’s time to let go of unadult-like ways. Back away from the potato chips and brownies or whatever gets your rocks off, and grow the fuck up!

You want motivation?! Lean on the fact that you’re an adult! You’re actually smart, capable, and full of potential if you just decide to use all your faculties.

So decide. You’ve got personal power within. We all really do.

You know what to do. You know what’s right. You know the choices it takes to get from point A to point B, so make them. Just fucking make them.

You want something? Then maybe it’s time to act like an adult.

While some were left gushing at the little elephant, others pointed out how every child, be it an animal or a human aspire to become a grown up as soon as possible.

There’s no doubt that baby elephants never fail to make netizens go aww with their cute behaviour and funny actions. Running around on their tiny feet and doing all kinds of derpy things, these little cuties easily capture our hearts and a video posted by IFS officer Susanta Nanda proves the case.

The clip originally shared on the YouTube page of Five Zero Safari was posted on Twitter by Nanda. The clip shows a baby elephant standing beside its parent who happens to have long tusks. The little one clutches a bone in its trunk and tries to position it beside its mouth just like a tusk.

Take a look at the clip:

The baby wants a ready made tusk👍

Elephant calves are highly inquisitive about everything around. When this baby got a bone on way, wanted to put it like a tusk.
Amusing stuff.

Posted on July 24, the post has garnered over 12,400 views and tons of comments from netizens. While some were left gushing at the little elephant, others pointed out how every child, be it an animal or a human aspire to become a grown up as soon as possible.

One individual even expressed how the baby jumbo’s antics can be seen in an adult human as well

Here’s how others reacted:

That’s true of all babies. Whether it’s human, dogs or elephants, they want to put everything in their mouth. 😃

Just like a human child, (s)he is is very interested to be a grown up

Ifound elephant babies cutest

What do you think of this little ‘grown up’?

When you behave and act like an adult, it is good for creating healthy self-esteem. This doesn’t mean you have to read The Times every morning or button up your suit, rather it is a way you treat yourself and others that reduces anxiety and negative self-talk. I know many adults who act immature and children whose behaviors are better than grey haired grown-ups. Whether you’re 14 or 42, you have likely been taught some basics about acting maturely. The more childish you are in handling life’s ups and downs, the worse you will feel in the long run.

We call it mature when you pay the bills early, on time, or set up an automatic payment to avoid getting a late fee, or worse yet hurting your credit score. When you think about how these mature actions affect your internal state, they breed more trust and control within yourself. Conversely, acting childish can lead to more problems and stress, and is a continual cycle down the self-esteem “rabbit hole.”

Acting Like an Adult Serves Your Best Interests

The Father of Transactional Analysis (TA is a theory of Psychology), Eric Berne, created the famous ‘parent adult child’ theory in which the adult “ego state” is the more balanced, less strict or emotional. The adult in you acts in a way that serves your best self, builds your confidence and increases the likelihood that you will feel good about your current decision in the future. Acting like an adult is a balance between emotionally fueled decision making and rigidity, which he considers to be the “child” and “parent” ego states. An adult state of mind is where we want to be.

How to Act Like an Adult

What does “acting like an adult” really mean? Here are some tips and examples.

Set it up now. Automatic payments, doctor appointments, appointment reminders, and even birthdays, can all be done online or with your smart phone. Take two minutes today and save thousands of worry and anxiety filled thoughts (which notoriously deplete yourself-esteem) later. That dentist appointment you have been putting off or even the bill that is over-due, no longer a drain on your time. Take care of your physical health now. If something is ailing you, make the appointment.

Stop splurging. Your body and bank account can’t bounce back like they once could. Late night pizza sessions or trying to “keep up with the Jones” and buying things beyond your budget lead to long-term physical and mental health issues. Save your pennies for a rainy day or eat a few slices not the whole pie. It leads to less guilt and more control.

Clean it up. Nothing makes you feel like your adolescent self than a sink full of dirty dishes and an unkempt home life. No one is perfect. I certainly have piles of books and papers around my apartment in a somewhat “organized-for-me” fashion. However, dirty or messy living spaces can make you feel like you are living in a collage dorm room. Literally, it can push you into a scattered frame of mind. How great does it feel when you know where something is and don’t spend hours looking for your keys or shirt you want to wear? Its a feeling of relief and confidence.

Avoid negative energy. Those people who complain, criticize or constantly belittle you, that’s like being stuck in an adolescent state of mind. Instead, adults chose the people they want around. Terrible colleagues or fighting family members may not be easy to avoid, but the logical side of your mind knows to stay away when you can and keep your interactions with them brief. You don’t want that polluting your mature mindset.

Avoid avoiding. You may feel like you’re in control, temporarily, but the more things build up, (whether it be the monthly bills, writing that frustrating email, or taking the next step in whatever you need to do), the more you put it off, the more it effects your self-esteem. Do it once and get it done.

Use manners. Be polite. Don’t get into aggressive arguments or engage in embarrassing behavior. Send the thank you card, call your grandma back, chew with your mouth shut, and try to take responsibility for your actions. If you messed up or made a mistake, admit to it now before it creates even more anxiety. It’s okay to admit you’re wrong. You don’t always have to be right. Most humans aren’t. Also, say sorry if you’re wrong. You will feel better.

Its always a good idea to activate your inner-child in creativity, don’t hide him or her. However, in making decisions that effect your self-esteem and self-confidence, its best to act more like an “adult” than a toddler.

APA Reference
Roberts, E. (2013, September 25). Act Like An Adult and Build Self-Esteem, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2020, August 10 from

Author: Emily Roberts MA, LPC

Emily is a psychotherapist, she is intensively trained in DBT, she the author of Express Yourself: A Teen Girls Guide to Speaking Up and Being Who You Are. You can visit Emily’s Guidance Girl website. You can also find her on Facebook, Google+ and Twitter.

Thank you. Just what I was looking for! I have lived most of my adult life from the parent-child ego. Not a good place to live as an adult.

that article was very very helpful for me, what I am going through now. I will definitely use your advise.

This is so clean and simple. LOVE. I will try and grow up now. Thanks!

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

One thing at a time always helps me!

Excellent and useful article, as well! To like and to be adult indicates different issue. But to intent to act like adult exhibits crucial personal life performance. Moreover, mature behave is building up through appropriate relationship in social milieu. In this way, the ability to adopt personal desires with circumstantial conditions decreases interpersonal frictions. To achieve this goal, it ought to see oneself by others-eyed. Each objection ought to serve as advantageous advise because we understand the real picture of “adult ego” , which have to face with daily psycho-social problems. Otherwise, we would be exposed continually to numerous conflict situations with danger consequences for mental health. Personal benefits come on across polite behave toward close relatives friends, and all around people.

Some children don’t get much of a childhood. When children have to act like adults – taking responsibility for their siblings, parents, and running a household– there are lasting effects.

What is a parentified child?

A parentified child is one that has taken on some or all of their parent’s responsibilities. Out of necessity, the child becomes the parent and the parent acts more like a child.

Parentified children take responsibility for practical tasks like cooking, cleaning, and paying bills. They put their younger siblings to bed and help them with homework. They also take care of their parents – covering mom with blankets after she’s passed out on the couch, acting as her crisis counselor or confidant (sometimes this is called being a surrogate spouse), bearing the heavy burden of trying to solve adult problems.

Often parentified children are the oldest or middle in the birth order. Children of all genders can become parentified. Children as young as two or three may start to take on parenting responsibilities by comforting or feeding their younger siblings.

Why do children end up taking care of their parents and siblings?

Kids become parentified when their parents can’t/won’t fulfill their responsibilities. This often happens when a parent is addicted to drugs or alcohol or is seriously mentally ill. Even if the parent is physically present, they are incapable of parenting and acting like a responsible, mature adult. They don’t know how to keep their children safe. They are often emotionally immature, unpredictable, and lack even a basic understanding of child development. And they lack awareness of how their behavior impacts their children and others.

How does being a parentified child affect you?

Caretaking is hard work – challenging and exhausting both physically and emotionally – even for adults. So, there’s a lot working against parentified children. The human brain isn’t fully developed until we’re in our early to mid-20s. So, even teenagers lack the cognitive reasoning skills, life experience, and impulse control needed for effective parenting. Not to mention that parentified children have few, if any, role models for how to parent or organize and complete adult tasks. And they usually lack resources like money or a car that make parenting a bit easier.

In addition, they may have to contend with a needy, destructive, abusive, or undermining parent who sabotages their efforts and makes more work for them. And their siblings may also have more challenges than average children due to abuse, neglect, or undiagnosed health, mental health, or learning difficulties.

At the same time, parentified children have to parent themselves. They have to figure out how to cope with their own feelings, trauma, and growing up experiences. They don’t have attentive and loving parents to offer encouragement, guidance, comfort or validation. They feel alone, overwhelmed, scared, and angry. Often, they have to give up their own friends, interests, and goals because they are so busy caretaking and filled with shame and unworthiness. Parentified children don’t get to be children.

It’s an understatement to say that parentified children are under a lot of stress. Here are some of the challenges they may continue to face in adulthood, as a result.

• Increased health and mental health problems (see ACES studies for more information)
• Compulsive caretaking, attracting troubled individuals in need of rescuing, fixing, or helping
• Difficulty trusting
• High levels of anxiety, rumination, and worry
• Feeling inadequate
• Loneliness
• Self-criticism
• Perfectionism
• Workaholism
• Being overly responsible, having trouble relaxing, having fun, and being spontaneous
• Trying to control people and situations
• Difficulty setting boundaries and being assertive
• Anger
• Shame

When you’re taking care of everyone else, you learn to deny your own needs and feelings. Out of necessity, you have to push them away and as a result, you end up believing that your needs and feelings don’t matter. You get disconnected from yourself, unable to see your value – other than as a caretaker – and feel like you constantly have to prove your worth through perfectionism, overworking, being responsible for and taking care of others. And when you don’t feel you have intrinsic value, it’s hard to stand up for yourself, set boundaries, feel confident, and go after what you want in life.

What is codependency?

We could simply sum up the list above as codependency*. Codependency is essentially a difficulty feeling good about and loving ourselves which makes it difficult for us to have healthy relationships with others. Codependency can also be described as one person in a relationship over-functioning while the other under-functions. That certainly sounds a lot like the relationship between a parentified child and his or her parent. This, unfortunately, becomes the template for all our other relationships.

Healing from codependency and parentification

You didn’t cause your codependency, but you are the only person who can change it. I’m not going to lie – it’s hard. I see people in my therapy office daily who struggle with codependency and the fallout from their dysfunctional childhood. But you can get better little by little, by taking small steps daily.

How do you start healing?

• Read a self-help book. There are so many exceptional books to choose from. Some of my favorites are by Melody Beattie, Pia Melody, Claudia Black, Peter Walker, Jonice Webb, Louise Hay, Brené You can find more suggestions here.
• Find a therapist. If finances are an issue, look for a non-profit counseling agency, city or county-run mental health clinic, sliding-scale therapists, and Open Path Collective.
• Try a 12-step meeting (Al-Anon, Codependent Anonymous, Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families). You can attend in-person, online, or by telephone. All 12-step programs are free.
• Focus more on your self-care and less on trying to make everyone else happy and meeting all of their needs.
• Learn to set boundaries. Boundaries are essential in all healthy relationships and reflect your self-worth and desire to keep yourself safe. Boundaries also give you physical and emotional space from difficult people, which you need in order to heal and do your own recovery work.
• Use some of the tools in my free resource library. Sign-up for access to the tools and my newsletter here.

A note about the term codependency: Codependent and codependency can feel like icky words. No one likes to be labeled as having a problem or issue. And it can feel particularly unfair because codependency is likely the result of hurtful things that were done to you as a child. You are, of course, more than your codependent traits. And these traits developed as a way for you to try to cope with scary, hurtful, and confusing things that happened to you. I use the term because I have yet to find a succinct alternative that encompasses the entirety of codependency.

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Some people may be confused on how to start being an adult.

Becoming an adult doesn’t just happen automatically once you turn 18. The process of becoming more mature and adult-like can be harder than you may have thought. After all, you’re with your parents for so many years, and they help you take care of so many things.

Once you’re on your own, you may have trouble finding your own footing and figuring out how to live by yourself. There’s really no need to stress; many people are in the same boat as you. This article will give you a starting point that you can use so that you can start becoming an adult in no time.

Take Care of Your Personal Finances

Probably the biggest and scariest thing about being an adult is taking care of your own finances. This includes your car payment, rent, utilities, food, and even health insurance.

At first, it may seem stressful because everything has a different due date, and you don’t know how to plan accordingly. The best thing that you can do is take out a planner or use the calendar on your phone and mark which days have payments. Once you can visually see it, it will be easier for you to plan your payments.

Many times, we must wait for paychecks in order to pay for some of our bills. Once you have a visual on your calendar, it’ll be much easier to remember when you need to pay and with what paycheck. After you do that, you can always set up auto payments. Auto payments can really help because you don’t have to personally remember when to take the money from your bank account for you to pay the bill. If you’re still lost, here are 50 personal finance tips for you to explore.

Start Meal Prepping

Another thing that you can do is to start meal prepping. You don’t want to eat low-quality dinners just to get by. It would be better if you learned how to cook for yourself, or at least learn how to get healthy food that won’t cost you so much. 5 dinners 1 hour can do Custom Dinner Meal Prep that can help you start learning how to cook.

Having a Custom Dinner Meal Prep can make your life much easier, and you will no longer have to spend hours cooking or trying to decide what to eat. 5 dinners 1 hour can give you recipes that work specifically for you.

When you have these recipes, you can start cooking a weeks’ worth of meals easily. Throughout the week, you only need to heat up your meal and enjoy. You’re not going to have to spend hours cooking every single day. This is another way that you can raise the quality of your life. With simple and easy to follow recipes, you’ll be preparing Master Chef dishes in no time.

Keep yourself together

Becoming an adult can be hard. Every day, your faced with new challenges, and you’ll have to overcome these challenges on your own. You no longer have the ability to simply call your mom or dad and have them finish everything for you.

Now is the time for you to take control and do it yourself. However, this can be very scary to some people, but it doesn’t have to be. What you need to do is just keep yourself together, and realize that you’re trying the best that you can, and that’s enough.

Hopefully, this article gives you some good insight about how to be more of an adult. There’s always a part of our lives where we really don’t know what we’re doing, but once you get the hang of it, you realize that being an adult is not as scary as you thought it would be.

By Becky Mansfield · Published: August 26, 2015 · Last Updated: September 22, 2015 · Leave a Comment

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Our kids all act like adults at some point. These 7 pictures & videos just bring that point to the table. I had to share them with you!

1. When they pretend to drink “coffee”. All of our kids have done this at one point or another!

2- When they talk like an adult.
This little boy is hilarious! Listen to him around 1 minute, 45 seconds. Hilarious! He is talking to his mom and says “Linda, Honey, listen to me!”

3- Put makeup on like Mom.
This little girl is so adorable! Skip to around 3 minutes & 30 seconds… to cute!

4- Use Dad’s favorite grooming stuff!
Our kids have ALL started to use stuff that makes them “smell like dad” when they get a shower to ‘get game ready’. They are tired of the “baby soap” that their baby sister uses. It is hilarious! Here are my husband’s favorite grooming products that the kids have taken a liking to… DOVE Men+Care is their favorite. They are all pregame products of the NCAA, too.

5- Dressing like us.
My friend Kelly’s kids dressed up like “100 year olds” and this was the result… haha!!

6. Pretending to dress like what they want to be when they grow up

even if that is a princess.
Our daughter could wear her princess outfits around all day long without a care in the world. (She’s totally making a statement with those shoes, too!)

7- Act like the teacher or coach.
I can remember lining up all of my stuffed animals when I was little and teaching them. I have seen each of our kids do this, too! Now they are even taking on the role of “coach” when they play outside with us and with each other.
This one was taken yesterday (its on my Instagram page) right after our son told my husband “Remember that when you catch it, you want to pull it in.” Ps- my husband is the ACTUAL head football coach here. haha!

Ps- speaking of getting game ready, check out this video by clicking on it below:

What do your kids do when they want to be the grownup?

There are: infants, toddlers, children, tweenagers, teenagers, young adults, adults and seniors. But this is a quiz about how much an adult you are. Here’s the thing: If you are a kid, enjoy being a kid while you can. You have plenty of years in the future to be uptight and mature. But if it is time to be a mature adult and get your life in order, then do so! This is just a quiz and please don’t get mad if you didn’t get the answer you wanted to because I’m not a perfect quiz-maker even though I’ve made a lot of quizzes, haha. Please enjoy my quiz!

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“This is ridiculous,” James said to himself after witnessing his soon-to-be ex-wife losing it because she didn’t get her way. To him, she sounded like a 2-year-old who didn’t get a piece of candy – and was even sharing the same level of irrational reasoning one would expect from a toddler. Her arms flung all over the place, her voice was a higher pitch than usual, and she had gone as far as to throw a few small objects in his direction. All of this was over a location adjustment for exchanging their daughter.

This wasn’t the first time James had seen this display. In fact, her erratic behavior greatly contributed to his reason behind their pending divorce. The frequent fits of rage were unpredictable, volatile, forceful, absurd, and even threatening. Early on he had encouraged her to get help, but she repeatedly refused, insisting that if he just did what she asked then she would never have to get mad.

Desperate to keep the peace, James even tried giving in to her demands for the majority of their marriage. But it never seemed to be enough for her. The more he caved, the more she expected him to. He had become a shell of himself and was embarrassed by his own tolerance for her behavior. The night she destroyed his new phone was the last straw, he had enough of the abuse and decided to end the relationship.

Yet for his daughter’s sake, he still wanted to understand why she continued to rage. So, he decided to seek out counseling and discovered several possibilities. These were the possibilities presented to him:

• Personality: Part of the definition of a personality disorder is an inaccurate perception of reality. When this distorted perception is revealed, the outcome is frequently anger. There are nine different personality disorders, but the most likely candidates for this type of behavior are those with narcissistic, paranoid, dependent, borderline, obsessive-compulsive, and anti-social (sociopath and psychopath) personalities.
• Addiction: Addicts need a justification to continue to abuse their substance of choice. Their cycle of exploding and then abusing a substance to self-soothe means they need a constant flow of upsetting events in order to rationalize their addiction. Sometimes, their irrational rage is the first evidence of a hidden addiction.
• Diversion: In order to avoid exposure in another area, a person might subconsciously generate a diversion tactic. The problem is that the diversion needs to be so exaggerated that others lose their focus. Thus, an extreme rage is born out of necessity.
• Regression: A popular but frequently forgotten defense mechanism is a regression. When things get too difficult and a person feels vulnerable, defense mechanisms kick in as a way of self-preservation. Regression is a return to childlike behavior as a way to avoid adult-like reality and responsibility.
• Attention: Just like a toddler, an adult who feels deprived of attention might act out inappropriately. Some adults don’t care if the attention they received is positive or negative, they just want to be at the center by commanding an audience through a tantrum.
• Shame: Hidden shame or embarrassment is an underlying reason for some explosions. A past history of sexual abuse is a common shameful event. When a person feels triggered by their past trauma, a natural reaction is to come out swinging. This fight response is so instinctive that in severe cases of PTSD, a person might not even realize or remember that they have exploded.
• Guilt: Sometimes the root of an angry rage is guilt. When a person feels guilty for their behavior or actions, an immature response is to react in anger. While the anger they feel is really more about themselves than another person, it is far easier to project that anger onto others than it is to take responsibility for improper behavior or action.
• Fear: Once again, an immature response to feelings of fear is to respond with anger. Instead of admitting to being afraid which can look weak in some eyes, a person might do the opposite by aggressively exploding in anger. This suppresses the fear only temporarily, but it does deflect others from seeing the hidden fear.
• Manipulation: “What are they getting out of this,” is a question that should be asked to check for manipulative behavior. If a person benefits in some way by acting out, they will continue to act out. It is simple cause and effect behavior. To modify this, stop giving the person what they want, and they will naturally find another way of obtaining it.

James realized that there wasn’t just one explanation for his ex-wife’s explosions, but rather, several. Even though his marriage had ended, by developing some compassion from a distance he was better able to help his daughter navigate the rantings and encourage a healthy relationship between her and her mother.

She looks like an adult, sounds like an adult and occasionally dresses like an adult. But take a closer look and you’ll see someone who more closely resembles a teenager than a bona fide grown-up. The increasingly common phenomenon of taking the long road to adulthood goes by different names – failure to launch, Peter Pan syndrome, the boomerang generation – but is becoming a pressing concern for many families.

Most young people don’t struggle with the transition into adulthood, and of those that do, there are often understandable – even healthy – reasons for it. Some are busy seizing other opportunities – trying on different jobs and romantic interests to see which fits, traveling, or building job skills at unpaid internships. For these youth, living at home and settling down later makes sense.

The economic downturn has hit young adults hard. Between 2007 and 2010, the number of adult children living with mom and dad increased from 1.2 million to 15.8 million. Those who go to college often have loans to repay, a high cost of living, fierce competition for entry-level jobs and an unemployment rate nearly double the national average. They’re not lazy, in most cases they don’t want to depend on their parents; they’re just struggling to put the pieces together.

It’s also not a personal affront to their parents. Today, everything is happening later. With college enrollment at an all-time high but fewer jobs opportunities, young people are entering the workforce later. Once there, they jump from job to job until they find one that suits them, changing course an average of seven times before reaching 30. The median age for getting married is now 26 for women and 28 for men – about five years later than it was 50 years ago.

Slow and Steady or Going Nowhere Fast?

In contrast to this group of slow but sure adults-in-the-making is a small subgroup of young people for whom living at home isn’t a matter of building a launch pad but a true failure to launch. Directionless and afraid, these perma-teens may remain jobless, dependent and lonely well into their 20s, even 30s and beyond. Substance abuse is common, which amplifies the depression, anxiety and low self-confidence they feel and exacerbates their lack of motivation.

What’s behind this type of failure to launch? It could be the entitlement some kids feel as a result of being told that they can be and have anything they desire. Or perhaps it’s helicopter parents who shield their children from the consequences of their decisions and, consciously or unconsciously, encourage their children to stay under their protective wing even into adulthood.

But there are many other factors that could be involved. For example, some of these young people may have experienced trauma that stalled their emotional development. Others may be struggling with underlying addictions and mental health disorders. Substance abuse peaks between ages 18 and 25, and mental health disorders such as bipolar disorder, anxiety disorders and eating disorders typically appear during the late teens or early twenties.

What Parents Can Do to Help

No matter how far off track your young adult has wandered, there are steps you can take to help them find their way:

Assess the Situation. If your young adult is on the road to independence, albeit the scenic route, a little empathy may be in order. College debt, a tight job market, a struggling economy – all are valid reasons why the timetable for growing up is more drawn out than it used to be. Offer encouragement and support when you can, balanced with plenty of opportunities for them to learn from their mistakes.

Stop Enabling. If your young adult isn’t inching toward independence, especially if they’ve gotten derailed by substance abuse, it’s time to set your own plan in motion. Refusing to enable is a good place to start. Unconditional love is a must, but lending money, making excuses for their mistakes and looking the other way when they do wrong – not anymore. Only when your young adult experiences the consequences of their choices will they begin to make better ones.

Set Boundaries. If your living arrangement is satisfactory to both you and your young adult, there’s nothing wrong with continuing to support a young adult, especially in a tough economy. But if your arrangement isn’t mutually acceptable, boundaries need to be drawn. Can your young adult live at home rent-free so long as they’re taking steps toward independence and respecting your limits? Will you pay for their car, cell phone, insurance or other non-necessities? If your young adult is abusing drugs or alcohol, you may decide they can live at home only if they agree to get help.

Consider drawing up a contract – an agreement between adults – that outlines these boundaries. Even when normal worries set in – are they safe, will they ever succeed on their own – hold tight to your boundaries without rescuing or solving their problems for them. These boundaries will help your young adult stay close to you while working toward independence.

Get Help. Nearly seven million young adults ages 18 to 25 need treatment for substance abuse, yet only 5 percent get help. While you can’t solve all of your young adult’s problems, you can offer support, stage an intervention and connect them to the proper resources, such as an addiction treatment program or a self-help support group. You can also improve the family dynamic by getting your own support system in place, which may include a therapist and/or Al-Anon or other support groups.

Encourage Progress. Your young adult’s path may not be a straight line into adulthood. Start with small goals such as buying their own groceries, volunteering or getting a part-time job. Help them maintain a healthy routine by eating nutritious meals, practicing good hygiene and exercising every day. This way, they’re positioned to take advantage of new opportunities when they arise.

In young adulthood, the possibilities for the future abound, as do pressures to succeed. The decisions made during this time can impact the rest of their lives. Unfortunately for some, the many moving parts – education, career, relationships, financial independence – don’t come together seamlessly. Even worse, this stage can be marred by drug use and mental illness. Sometimes our job as parents is to light their path; other times it’s letting them fly. Knowing the difference is one of the many tests of parenthood.

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Our kids all act like adults at some point. These 7 pictures & videos just bring that point to the table. I had to share them with you!

1. When they pretend to drink “coffee”. All of our kids have done this at one point or another!

2- When they talk like an adult.
This little boy is hilarious! Listen to him around 1 minute, 45 seconds. Hilarious! He is talking to his mom and says “Linda, Honey, listen to me!”

3- Put makeup on like Mom.
This little girl is so adorable! Skip to around 3 minutes & 30 seconds… to cute!

4- Use Dad’s favorite grooming stuff!
Our kids have ALL started to use stuff that makes them “smell like dad” when they get a shower to ‘get game ready’. They are tired of the “baby soap” that their baby sister uses. It is hilarious! Here are my husband’s favorite grooming products that the kids have taken a liking to… DOVE Men+Care is their favorite. They are all pregame products of the NCAA, too.

5- Dressing like us.
My friend Kelly’s kids dressed up like “100 year olds” and this was the result… haha!!

6. Pretending to dress like what they want to be when they grow up

even if that is a princess.
Our daughter could wear her princess outfits around all day long without a care in the world. (She’s totally making a statement with those shoes, too!)

7- Act like the teacher or coach.
I can remember lining up all of my stuffed animals when I was little and teaching them. I have seen each of our kids do this, too! Now they are even taking on the role of “coach” when they play outside with us and with each other.
This one was taken yesterday (its on my Instagram page) right after our son told my husband “Remember that when you catch it, you want to pull it in.” Ps- my husband is the ACTUAL head football coach here. haha!

Ps- speaking of getting game ready, check out this video by clicking on it below:

What do your kids do when they want to be the grownup?

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Who said Disney World is just for kids? Esteemed CNN commentator Sally Kohn may play a very smart grown-up on TV, but when it comes to her happy place, her adult tastes run very young at heart.

ORLANDO, Florida — I should start by confessing something: I love Walt Disney World. A lot. I’ve been 44 times. Actually, it might be more than that. I’ve lost count.

When I was a kid, my mom worked for AT&T as part of a team based in Orlando. So several times a year, mom would travel from Allentown, Pennsylvania, to Orlando, Florida, for work. Beginning at around age 11, I would go with her. We would stay at a Disney World resort, usually the Yacht Club Resort, which for years I thought had the best pool in the world. (Stay tuned…) In the morning, my mom would go off to work and I would go to the theme parks. By myself. It was the ’80s. We did a lot of crazy things back then.

Anyway, I went a few times a year, which is how my trip total ended up in the double digits. But the truth is, I’ve gone maybe a dozen times since then. It’s my happy place.

Nowadays, I bring my daughter. She’s eight and loves Disney World as much as I do. She’s been three times so far in her little life. But let’s be clear, my daughter is a relatively new excuse. I would go no matter what. Disney World has plenty for adults to enjoy.

Who’s having more fun? Sally or her daughter? Photo by Sally Kohn.

Let’s start with hotels. The Yacht Club remains my favorite official Disney property for its sand-bottom pool and lazy river, as well as its walking-distance proximity to both Epcot and Hollywood Studios. But if you want over-the-top adult indulgence, Four Seasons at Disney World is the place for you. The rooms are large and luxurious. The spa is decadent. The hotel swimming pool complex is the best I’ve ever seen, and the rooftop restaurant serves the best steak I’ve ever eaten. Honestly, as much as I love Disney World, I’d make a trip to Orlando just to stay in the Four Seasons. It’s that good. That it’s inside the Disney grounds, with views of the parks (and fireworks) from most rooms is the cherry on the top. Go there. Stay there. For a few days if you can. And make sure you have a full day just to lounge at the pool, which includes an adult pool and three family pools, including a slide and a lazy river that serves drinks.

I’m pretty sure the definition of paradise on earth is a sipping from a mojito while wedged into a plastic inner tube and gently flowing round and round in a circle.

All that pent-up pressure you have to act all mature and respectable? Let it go, yo.

Now let’s say you want to go to the parks. If you don’t have kids, don’t go when school is on break. That would be dumb. One of the many (and I do mean many!) advantages of not having offspring is that you can travel on the days and weeks when airports and theme parks aren’t bursting at the seams. So do that. Lots of websites offer Disney Crowd Calendars. Use them. (Here’s one.)

Then, as an adult at an uncrowded Disney World theme park, you have two choices: Act like an adult or act like a kid.

Might I suggest you do both?

Acting like an adult at Disney World involves such things as spending an afternoon trying to drink an alcoholic beverage at every country in Epcot — or eating something at each, if drinking isn’t your thing. You can get Fast Passes, the magical line-cutting reservations available with admissions tickets, in the wee late hours when most of the kiddos have conked out. You can do adult-only activities at places like Disney’s Boardwalk, which has an old-timey dance hall and a dueling piano bar. And you can shop. For my partner, the Mitsukoshi Department Store in the Japan pavilion at Epcot is reason enough to visit Disney. The only branch of the store outside Japan, this is the place to pick up authentic kimonos, those socks with the section for your big toe, and more Hello Kitty accessories than you can shake a Pocky stick at. (You can also buy Pocky sticks and other Japanese sweets.)

Speaking of candy, don’t forget to act like a kid. One of the many advantages (and there are many!) to actually having a child is that you have a convenient excuse to do childlike things. But if you’re a single, straight, 43-year-old male and want to wait in line for 20 minutes to meet Elsa and Anna, who the hell is gonna stop you? All that pent-up pressure you have to act all mature and respectable? Let it go, yo. Buy some mouse ears. Go on the baby Dumbo ride. Try to pull that sword out of the stone near the carousel in the Magic Kingdom. Come on, you know you wanna!

Every year, there are new reasons to go to Disney World. This year, it’s the new Avatar addition to the Animal Kingdom, which is supposed to be incredibly immersive, and you know I’m totally jonesing to check it out. And, yes, there are always reasons not to go. It’s expensive and it’s a corporate behemoth that’s profiting off our obsession with happy endings in order to feed a greedy version of consumer capitalism, and thus inequality, that never ends well. Okay, but still … we can’t let reality and political consciousness ruin everything.

Just like we can’t let adulthood ruin all the fun.

There are two kinds of people — children and adults, but not determined by age. A three-year-old bangs his spoon repeatedly on the table, to the annoyance of his mother, who tells him to …

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There are two kinds of people — children and adults, but not determined by age. A three-year-old bangs his spoon repeatedly on the table, to the annoyance of his mother, who tells him to stop.

The child says, “I want to.” The mother says, “it annoys other people.”

A child lives in his own world, where he is the center — “I” and “me.” The adult lives in the real world, where “we” and “us” are part of his life.

A three-year-old is cute when he demands to do what he wants — not so cute as a 23, 33 or 43-year-old.

If you’re banging on the table, you’re probably not hurting anyone, but if you are demanding your right to wear no mask nor socially distance, you may well be. Those rights end when they infringe on other people’s rights to be safe.

Do you have a dysfunctional family?

Are you an adult who’s fighting with your mom and dad? You’re not alone. Honestly, I thought I could never get angrier than when my parents took away my Barbies when I was 6, or when they grounded me from going to my senior prom because they found pot in my bedroom. But it’s proven that the older we get, the more aggravated we become with our families. And, more specifically, mothers feel a tension with their daughters. (Ladies, do you feel me?) As we all enter adulthood, why do we have trouble acting like adults?

As we grow old, we become settled into our personalities. We’re individuals. We have our own kids, and most likely, our parents want a say in how to raise them–when it’s not really their business in the first place. Let me guess–this has probably caused a fight or two in your family.

So instead of focusing on the problem, let’s try to think of a solution. How do we create a healthy relationship with our parents once we’ve all entered adulthood?

STOP TRYING TO WIN THEIR APPROVAL, YOU DON’T NEED IT

Change the power dynamic. You don’t need your parents approval anymore. When we’re growing up, we are constantly seeking our parent’s love. Don’t bring that into adulthood. If you’re still trying to find the perfect spouse, job, car, and house just to impress your parents, you’re never going to be happy, and you’re probably never going to make them happy either. Start doing things for yourself. Most likely, that’s how you’ll end up earning your parent’s respect.

TALK TO THEM LIKE FELLOW ADULTS/FRIENDS

Treat your parents with respect (always) but don’t treat them like your superior. Once you’re an adult, you’re a fully functioning human being with a set of responsibilities and an active role in this world. Most likely, you have your own family or at least a plant or cat that you take care of. If you act like an adult, and talk to them like an adult, they’ll probably start treating you like one too.

SET BOUNDARIES

The sooner you set boundaries the better. Let your parents know they have to give notice before they come over. That you’ll ask them for advice when you want it, otherwise you need to do your own learning in the world and they raised you perfectly well to do that. Let them know that one phone call a day is a great amount of talking. It might hurt their feelings at first, but it will give your parents their own free time and ultimately they’ll realize they raised a cool, confident adult.

YOU CAN’T CHANGE YOUR PARENTS, BUT YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR REACTIONS TO THEM

Bad news: your parents are most likely stuck in their ways emotionally. The only thing that you can control is yourself and your own actions. That goes for pretty much anything in this world, actually. So, when your parents are doing something you don’t like or something that triggers you- keep your cool and figure out what the best way for you to react is that dissolves the situation. Part of being an adult now means being able to walk away from situations if you want to.

DON’T ASK FOR ADVICE UNLESS YOU REALLY WANT IT

If you ask for advice, be prepared to hear something that you don’t want to, well. hear. So proceed with caution. Be careful what you wish for.

WHEN FIGHTING, LEAD WITH THE POSITIVE

If a conversation or action does end up turning into a fight, remember this is family you’re dealing with. You’re stuck with them. So always lead with love and kindness. Remind them of all their positive attributes and your appreciation of them, and then segway into, “and, when this happened, it made me feel _____.” Reminder: it’s actions that are problematic, not necessarily people. So target specific things they are doing that need to be amended rather than their whole personality. The best thing about being a grown up is that temper tantrums aren’t your only means of communication anymore.

Family can be a difficult thing to tackle. Especially during the holidays. Good luck!

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House Minority Whip Steny Hoyer Steny Hamilton HoyerThe Hill’s Morning Report – Presented by the Air Line Pilots Association – Negotiators ‘far apart’ as talks yield little ahead of deadline On The Money: Pessimism grows as coronavirus talks go down to the wire | Jobs report poised to light fire under COVID-19 talks | Tax preparers warn unemployment recipients could owe IRS Overnight Health Care: Ohio governor tests positive for COVID-19 ahead of Trump’s visit | US shows signs of coronavirus peak, but difficult days lie ahead | Trump: COVID-19 vaccine may be ready ‘right around’ Election Day MORE (D-Md.) on Thursday suggested that Republicans are behaving like children in the debate to fund the Department of Homeland Security (DHS).

Senate and House Republicans are split over how to keep the DHS funded past Feb. 27 and revoke President Obama’s executive actions on immigration. The Senate has failed three times to advance the House-passed DHS bill that defunds the executive actions.

“The Republican leader in the Senate says the House ought to act. The Speaker says the Senate ought to act. Somebody needs to act. Somebody needs to act like an adult,” Hoyer said on the House floor.

Hoyer urged the GOP to avoid a DHS shutdown and deal with the immigration issue separately.

“We face, as all of us know, very real threats, which is why we cannot let the department’s funding lapse. If Republicans want to debate immigration policy, then bring an immigration bill to the floor,” Hoyer said.

On Thursday, BART Director Debora Allen scolded BART leadership for not providing what she believed was enough details on the budget and the fiscal impact COVID-19 will have on the transit system going forward.

Allen accused General Manager Bob Powers and staff for not providing leadership and not discussing the hard topics.

Her comments came after a $251.6 million bailout without strings attached from the Metropolitan Transportation Commission in federal CARES Act FTA funding. The allocation is the first installment of the $1.3 billion in funding provided to Bay Area transit operators in response to the COVID-19 pandemic. BART is currently serving 6% of its regular ridership

BART has taken a wait and see approach with its budget and now projects, on its low model, a return to 20% of the prior year ridership by June and up to 30% by the end of the year. In their best case scenario, a return to 65% of last years ridership.

It’s budget scenario is still including the same sales tax in all three scenarios and the presentation showed they have not done cost cuttings or savings—something Allen pointed out.

Allen explained how the presentation shows they are only cutting $75 million in a $425 million deficit while the other items were deferrals which was the equivalent of kicking the can down the road.

“I am just not seeing a strong leadership right now and I really keep hoping its coming,” said Allen. “I am not seeing a real drive for making the hard decisions or bringing up the hard topic in discussing the hard topics… this slide is like rearranging the deck chairs in my opinion and we are going to see the long-term deficit just get bigger.

Allen stated labor and benefits make up 63% of the budget and the Board was not seeing the potential for cuts saying the only way to make this up was to raise taxes or make cost cuts, such as cutting labor which she said no one wants to see people lose hours or their job.

“Our job is to oversee the budget of this agency and we are not doing our job if we are not putting everything on the table and having a real discussion about everything,” said Allen.

“For us to rely only on taxpayer funding to bail us out and not have serious conversations now about cutting costs. I think it is completely irresponsible of us, all of us,” said Allen. “As a board director, I do not have any better knowledge today, right now, after this presentation, after 3-hours of this meeting, I have no better knowledge today of what fiscal year 2021 as a budget than the end of the last meeting. We can’t keep going with wait-and-see method of projecting the financial state of our agency. We cannot keep hoping that the financial crisis is not real and we certainly cannot keep hiding the reality of the public. This is our third budget update since COVID-19 arrived and we still have no information or even a projection of what our fiscal year 21 budget will look like beyond revenue.”

Allen believes they needed cost numbers by the next meeting and hoped it would include a lot of details, while suggesting they cut the COVID-19 discussions and talk about masks as they had already “hammered it to death” and the issue is being handled.

“Maybe we can just focus on the elephant in the room the entire next meeting and talk about the financial health and going forward of the San Francisco Bay Area Rapid Transit,” stated Allen.

Powers rejected that idea saying they will continue to provide as much information as possible on the COVID-19 crisis upon them which included masks and PPE and impacts on frontline employees and riders safe along with police deployment.

“As for the budget, we have been working very hard on the budget side of the house, we got the update from MTC yesterday. We have dialed in a couple of scenarios; we are going to be coming back in May for the usage side of those funds and the budget. I think we have been very transparent with this BART Board,” said Powers.

Pamela Herhold, the BART’s assistant general manager for performance and budget, explained they were working has hard and as diligently as they could to identify where the budget stood with scenarios and what service looks like in the future.

Allen responded saying that doing a budget in PowerPoint wasn’t cutting it stating five line-items in a billion-dollar budget with costs was a “why bother?”.

In response, staff said when compared to other transportation agencies, they were “way ahead” of them because others were using the strategy of “wait and see” and that they were the ones “putting themselves out on a limb with scenarios”.

Allen challenged them saying they have only provided the revenue side, not the cost side.

Staff explained they would be coming back in May with more details than what was showed on Thursday, before the board would adopt a budget.

Allen then addressed Powers stating while she appreciated the COVID-19 updates, it didn’t need to be 90-minutes long and urged him to condense it down and spend their time on larger items.

“Let’s start talking about budget numbers and spend a lot of time on that,” stated Allen. “I think there is a lot of cost cutting items and we are going to have to have to have some lengthy discussions on that.”

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You’re ready for a change. Perhaps the time you’ve invested at your current job has proved less fruitful than you originally hoped. Maybe your interests have changed, or you need to earn more money. No matter what your circumstances are, you know you want to go back to school for a new (or your first) degree.

Preparing for the big leap back to school can be daunting, especially since so many things have changed since you were younger. This is especially true when dealing with test prep (the ACT or SAT). The eight suggestions below can help you navigate the world of test prep, and help you decide which test to take so you can build your career.

Know Which Test You Need to Take

The ACT has gained in popularity over the years, and the SAT is undergoing major changes. Before you sign up for either one, make sure your scores will be accepted at the colleges you’re applying to. You certainly don’t want to take the ACT and then find out the SAT was the required test for your school! If you can’t find the information on your school’s website, call or make an appointment with a counselor.

See If Your Previous Scores Are Available and Valid

The ACT and SAT organizations keep most scores going back several years, so if you don’t have a record of your previous score, contact the test company for a copy. If you’re in your 30s, or older, your test score at 17 is probably not the best gauge of your present-day brainpower, so you can, and probably should, retake the test. ACT scores, for example, are valid for only five years.

Know the Testing Deadlines for Your School of Choice

You can rush your score report for a fee, but it’s best to make sure that your scores will be sent to the colleges of your choice with plenty of time to spare. There’s nothing worse than trying to rush your test (and studying time) in the hopes that it gets to colleges in time. Why add to your stress?

Register Early

Make sure you know where the test center is. Many ACT and SAT tests are administered at community colleges. Then, register early, giving yourself plenty of time to study, and giving the testing company plenty of time to get your scores to your college. It’s relatively simple these days to register for the ACT or SAT thanks to online processing.

Study, Study, Study

There are more options than ever before to help you prep, including multiple online study courses, books, and interactive CDs. They’re only good if you use them, though, so be smart about your spare time, and make sure you devote the energy necessary to get the score you want. If you’re having a difficult time with one section, be sure to focus on that, but don’t neglect what you’re good at. Study, study, study!

Know When the Tests Are Due to Change

The ACT and SAT have remained pretty much the same over the years, but there are frequent minor, and infrequent major, changes to them that you need to be aware of. For example, in 2016, the SAT is undergoing its biggest changes ever (no losing points for getting questions wrong, multiple definitions of words on the test, etc.). It’s important that you study for the test you will be given. Make sure your study materials are up to date. You don’t want to prep with an old study guide for the new 2016 test!

Use All the Resources Available

You might be surprised to find that your college of choice offers resources unique to you as an adult returning to school. Many of these resources include test prep since colleges are aware that your circumstances are far different from those of a new high school grad.

There’s also the possibility of utilizing open source classes, especially if you’ve not used algebra or written an essay in years. Some of the top universities in the world, like MIT and Yale, offer non-credit virtual classes for free. Some require registration, while others are readily available online via sites like YouTube.

Remember Your Strengths

Perhaps you majored in English because you loved to read as a kid, but you’re going back to school for an accounting degree because you’ve picked up a ton of math experience in the workplace and found you love it. Those reading and writing skills are still there, if not a bit rusty. Oil them up and get those mental gears working again, and you can do great in both comprehension and math. No matter your strengths and weaknesses, smart studying can make a huge difference in your final score.

Many kids love playing dress-up in their parents’ clothes and pretending that they’re a grown-up. It turns out, it’s not just human kids who do this. As this flamingo shows, baby animals enjoy pretending to be adults too!

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This adorable flamingo was born on June 25 th , 2017 at the National Aviary in Pittsburgh. The National Aviary put a photo of the flamingo on their Facebook page, and it quickly spread across the internet.

At just four days old, this flamingo became a social media star.

The National Aviary also released a video of the newly hatched chick learning to walk, which people absolutely adored.

Look at this little one go! Our baby flamingo was stretching its legs outside in the Rose Garden at the National Aviary.

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People loved the National Aviary’s photo and video, but they still wanted to see more photos of the baby flamingo. Luckily for them, Twitter user @celesse went to visit the National Aviary and shared photos of her visit.

While all of these photos are adorable, one really captured people’s attention: a photo of the flamingo trying its hardest to adult.

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As the flamingo quickly learned, adulting is hard work. All of the daily tasks of adult life can really wear you out. Sometimes, being an adult is so tiring, you just need to lay down and take a midday nap.

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There’s even more good news for flamingo fans: there are more baby flamingos coming!

The National Aviary’s flamingo flock laid their eggs between May 26 th and June 9 th , 2017. Now, the eggs are slowly starting to hatch. On July 10 th , the National Aviary posted a photo of two more newly hatched chicks.

The little flamingo who became a social media star will soon have many friends to play with. We’re sure the oldest flamingo will teach all the younger ones everything it’s learned about adulting!

If you live near Pittsburgh and want to get up-close to these baby flamingos, head over to the National Aviary. If you’d like to support the National Aviary and the life-saving work that they do for birds, consider making a donation.

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The photos of this baby flamingo prove that baby animals trying to do adult things is always adorable. This little flamingo is prepared for everything adult life will throw at it.

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(CBS News) The top Republican in the Senate, Mitch McConnell of Kentucky, criticized President Obama for failing to lead on the debt, calling it the nation’s “biggest problem,” and indicating that nothing will get done about it until he takes initiative.

On “Face the Nation,” McConnell said “this president needs to become the adult” when it comes to the long-term debt, adding that he and House Speaker John Boehner “have been the adults in the room arguing that we ought to do something about the nation’s most serious long-term problem.”

McConnell told host Bob Schieffer that the president has had three-and-a-half years to tackle the deficit, but “we could not get this president to do anything serious about entitlement reform, for example, the single biggest threat to future generations.”

Earlier in the week, Speaker Boehner said he will demand additional spending cuts before Congress approves another increase to the debt ceiling, which came as a surprise to many. The previous fight over the debt ceiling nearly shut down the government before Congress and the president agreed to $1.2 trillion in spending cuts in exchange for the debt ceiling to be lifted.

McConnell said he agreed with Boehner’s statement: “If the president is going to ask us to raise the debt ceiling again, and he will early next year – we do need to have another serious discussion about trying to do something significant about the deficit and the debt,” he said.

McConnell said that without Mr. Obama taking action, nothing can be done regarding debt. “Look, without presidential leadership, nothing is, can be accomplished,” he said. “We didn’t have presidential leadership last year. It’s pretty clear the president’s not going to lead on this any time soon.

“We don’t control the entire government,” McConnell added. “We control the House of Representatives only. We’d like to do something about the nation’s biggest problem – spending and debt, which is, of course, the reason for this economic melees and this high unemployment – And whenever the president is willing to engage, we’re ready to go.”

Despite Speaker Boehner’s recent statement about cutting more spending in relation to the debt ceiling, however, the House passed a defense spending budget on Friday that increases spending by $8 billion, ignoring the previous debt ceiling agreement to cut $600 billion.

When asked by Schieffer if the cuts agreed to last year – including cuts to the Pentagon – should stand, McConnell (who was not involved in the House bill) replied, “Yeah, I don’t think we ought to cut a penny less than we’re pledged to cut.”

But he said he was open to discussing how the promised reduction could be allocated differently. “I happen to be among those who think it’s much too tough on the Defense Department – defense of the nation is our single biggest responsibility at the federal level of government in this country. But I don’t think we ought to cut a penny less than we promised the American people last year we would,” McConnell told Schieffer.

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Everyone’s got an opinion about the viral video showing an American Airlines passenger punching the reclined seat of a woman in front of him — and that includes comedian Ellen DeGeneres!

The daytime talk show host weighed in on the “great debate” during her opening monologue on “The Ellen DeGeneres Show” on Wednesday.

After showing her audience a clip of the man repeatedly punching the back of a woman’s seat when she reclined it, DeGeneres joked, “It looks uncomfortable but Brookstone charges $600 for a chair like that.”

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Ellen explained the man appeared to be sitting in the last row of the plane’s seats. According to the woman who tweeted the video, the man had asked her to put her seat up while he ate, and she obliged. But when he finished eating, she reclined again. “Then he started a boxing match with her seat,” said DeGeneres

In DeGeneres’ opinion, the man’s punching protest was juvenile and rude.

Viral video sparks debate over whether it’s okay to put your seat back on an airplane

“To me, the only time it’s ever OK to punch someone’s seat is if the seat punches you first,” she quipped, adding, “The first clue that you’re doing something you shouldn’t be doing is if someone pulls out a phone and starts recording you for evidence.”

Though Delta CEO Ed Bastian said last week that airline passengers should ask before they recline, DeGeneres believes the woman’s behavior was acceptable.

“Airline seats are made to recline. She has a right to recline,” said the Emmy winner, who then told the man who punched her chair, “You’re an adult. You have to act like an adult . Don’t pick on her like a third-grader.”

“We need to learn more compassion,” said Ellen, who then ended her monologue with a twist on her usual advice to “Be kind to one another.”

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Do arrive on time, but not first. Not quite fashionably late, but business casually late.

Don’t arrive without an exit strategy. Think Obama in Afghanistan, not Bush in Iraq. De Gaulle in Algeria, not Khaleesi in Meereen.

Do keep in mind that even if the event takes place after hours, you’re still expected to present yourself professionally. Festive bow tie? Yes. Sexy Santa suit? No. Sparkly headband? Fine. Footed Christmas PJs in a child’s size L? OK, but only if you work somewhere ironic, like the Bernie Sanders campaign.

Don’t compliment a sweater for being ugly unless you’re absolutely positive it was intended to be. If uncertain, ask a neutral question like: “Is that from Talbots?”

Do double-check whether people are bringing their actual spouse or just their work spouse. Plan any coordinated outfits accordingly.

Don’t use this party as an excuse to make a romantic gesture toward a colleague. Take a page from great American work husbands Thomas Jefferson and James Madison and save your pursuit of happiness for the Fourth of July picnic instead.

Do remember that you can’t spell “egregious sexual misconduct” without “mistletoe.”

Don’t bring mistletoe.

Do limit your alcohol consumption. Whether your boss is the Jack Donaghy to your Liz Lemon (a trusted mentor who pays you slightly less because you’re a woman), the Josh Lyman to your Donna Moss (there are sparks, but nothing you can act on until the current president leaves office), or the Avon Barksdale to your Stringer Bell (plotting your demise), keep it together until the senior executives leave.

Don’t forget that “Fireball” autocorrects to “fireable.”

Do keep the conversation work appropriate by avoiding any topics that appear in songs by The Weeknd.

Don’t do anything the bosses in Love Actually do—e.g., buy your assistant an inappropriately expensive gift, offer to assassinate an employee’s ex, or drop the only copy of your manuscript in a pond.

Do take advantage of your company’s cloud-based storage to back up your manuscripts.

Don’t do anything the employees in Love Actually do, either—e.g., suggest your boss purchase you an expensive gift, curse in front of the Prime Minister, or leave your coworkers short-staffed during the holiday rush just because Colin Firth showed up to say you’re beautiful and he wants to marry you.

Do bring Colin Firth as your date.

Don’t feel left out if you’re a freelancer and don’t have a holiday party to go to! Put on your sexy Santa suit, pour yourself some Fireball, enjoy your mistletoe without threat of litigation, and use this time to knock out a listicle about the twelve kinds of holiday party encounters only ‘90s kids will understand.

S ince she graduated high school, Kayla Stetzel, a 26-year-old law student living in Chicago, hadn’t spent any significant time in her father’s house in Indiana. Then the COVID-19 pandemic hit.

Not wanting to spend months alone in her small city apartment, Stetzel decided to move back in with her father—and inadvertently found herself reliving her adolescence. Her electric guitar and The O.C. DVDs came out of storage. She adopted sleep and eating habits even a teenager would find indulgent. And she found herself studying for law-school exams in the exact same place she did her grade-school homework.

“I’m stressed out about school and playing very angry rock and roll music in my basement,” she says. “It’s very surreal.”

Stetzel isn’t the only person having a teenage rebirth. Waves of 20- and 30-somethings turned back the clock in the early weeks of COVID-19 social distancing by retreating to their childhood homes. And even people who have not physically returned to their old surroundings are turning to nostalgic pastimes to fill the hours. Social media is awash in stories of people rediscovering old interests, from craft projects to long-outdated music, and old-school video games like Animal Crossing and the Sims are surging in Google search trends.

“Whenever we’re in a stressful situation, we tend to regress,” says Lori Gottlieb, a California-based psychotherapist. Just think of how you act when you go home for the holidays, she points out.

But while there are potentially destructive forms of regression, like snapping at your loved ones over a Thanksgiving turkey, it can also be a subconscious form of self-soothing. “Going back to a time in our lives when we felt safe and we felt protected is a natural instinct during these times,” Gottlieb says.

Sarah Solomon, the 31-year-old author of Guac Is Extra But So Am I: The Reluctant Adult’s Handbook, has been turning to an unlikely source for that comfort: the heavy metal music that spoke to her as a teenager, but that she says is now “very against my personal brand” as a Brooks Brothers-wearing adult in New York City. COVID-19 has made Korn and Nine Inch Nails suddenly feel appropriate again, Solomon says.

“We couldn’t go out when we were younger, so I feel like I’m regressing to that point—just raging against being isolated and not allowed to go out,” she says.

Martin Bell, a 33-year-old living with his wife and dog in Georgia, is also turning to old music during COVID-19. He says he’s especially drawn to bands like Bloc Party and the Strokes that he had on heavy rotation in the early 2000s, when he was searching for comfort during another “crisis point,” when “the whole world was turning upside down”: the Sept. 11 attacks.

“The sound of the music can take you back to these feelings that you really didn’t even know were still there,” he says.

Many adults who can telecommute (and do not have responsibilities like child or elder care) are also turning to old pastimes to fill their unprecedented number of unstructured hours at home. That’s the case for Madeline Bilis, a 26-year-old journalist living in New York City.

On a recent weekend, Bilis decided to download the Sims, a game she hadn’t played in more than a decade. “I played for about seven hours without realizing it,” she says. “I blew through lunch somehow, absent-mindedly funneling pretzels into my mouth.” She says the game reminds her of living in her parents’ home as a kid, “the last period when I had time to waste away hours on end.”

Dr. Frances Jensen, chair of the neurology department at the University of Pennsylvania’s Perelman School of Medicine and author of The Teenage Brain, says most of the behaviors we associate with teenagers—like video-game marathons and junk food feasts—relate to impulsivity and a desire for immediate gratification. Adults are displaying these same behaviors during the COVID-19 pandemic, but for different neurological reasons, Jensen says.

Teenagers owe their impulsive nature to their still-developing brains. The frontal lobe, the part of the brain that controls executive functioning, doesn’t fully mature until the mid-20s, Jensen says, making teens more likely to give in to their whims. Adults who are mirroring these behaviors during the pandemic don’t have the same excuse, Jensen says—but stress can do funny things even to developed frontal lobes. “Stress can increase impulsivity, and people are under a lot of stress” right now, Jensen says. “It’s a balance between the executive function parts of your brain and the ‘I want it, I want it, I want it!’ parts of your brain,” which are mainly housed in the limbic system. When you’re under stress, and “your barriers are down,” the limbic system may win out more than normal, giving rise to stereotypically teenage behaviors, she says.

The good news, Gottlieb says, is none of us have fully regressed—the functional adult inside is still there, just waiting to come back out. If you’re moving backward in unhealthy ways, whether by fighting with your family or eschewing all vegetables, Gottlieb says the first step is to notice it’s happening. Then, try to think of how you’d cope with stress under normal circumstances and adapt it to the present day, perhaps by calling a friend or going for a walk. Some newly re-discovered hobbies, like playing an instrument or drawing, are also great stress-relievers, she points out.

“The beauty of adulthood,” Gottlieb says, “is we have much stronger coping skills than we did when we were younger.”

Can Anyone On Fox ‘News’ Act Like An Adult? Laura Ingram Loses Another Sponsor

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Laura Ingraham loses sponsor after guest says Beto O’Rourke is ‘light in the loafers’

Jon Levine
May 1st 2019 9:55AM

Laura Ingraham was down another advertiser Tuesday night after the men’s wellness line Hims announced they would be dropping the show. The move came a day after Ingraham’s guest Texas Lt. Governor Dan Patrick mocked 2020 presidential candidate Beto O’Rourke as “light in the loafers.”

“Hims was founded to break down barriers for all people when it comes to obtaining quality healthcare. As a brand for everyone, we strongly denounce intolerance of any kind and therefore you won’t find our ads on this program going forward,” the company said in a brief statement on Twitter Tuesday.

In response, Fox News issued this statement: “We will not allow voices like Laura Ingraham’s to be censored by agenda-driven intimidation efforts from the intolerant partisan activists Media Matters, Sleeping Giants and Moveon.org whose only goal is to silence conservative thought they don’t agree with. The remark was made by a guest and clarified within the same segment.”

Ingraham’s advertisers have faced pressure from Twitter activists at Media Matters for America, Sleeping Giants and elsewhere after the Fox News host’s discussion with Patrick in which he used the expression commonly understood as a slur against LGBT people.

“Was he always this left wing?” Ingraham asked of O’Rourke during the Monday night show.
“He is so light in the loafers, he floats off the ground at times,” Patrick said as Ingraham shook her head.

The bad sponsor news didn’t just extend to Laura Ingraham. Also on Tuesday, the language learning company Babbel apologized to consumers after one of their ads was spotted on “Tucker Carlson Tonight.” The company said the ad had been placed with the program by mistake and that it would not happen again.

In a statement in response to Babbel, Fox News took aim directly at the company, warning they would pay a price with the network’s “deeply loyal” audience.
“If you saw our ad on Tucker Carlson’s show, you’re right to be upset. We are too. While we did place our ad with Fox, we did not know it would air on a show so repugnant and at odds with our mission and values. We are blacklisting the show going forward. We are deeply sorry,” they said.

“We will not allow voices like Laura Ingraham’s to be censored by agenda-driven intimidation efforts from the intolerant partisan activists Media Matters, Sleeping Giants and Moveon.org whose only goal is to silence conservative thought they don’t agree with. The remark was made by a guest and clarified within the same segment,” a rep for Fox News offered in response.

The Hims departure comes as Ingraham’s show was steadily climbing out from a year-long advertiser boycott first initiated by Parkland shooting survivor David Hogg. As TheWrap previously reported, ratings for the show have actually improved during the boycott while ad time had steadily been approaching pre-boycott levels throughout 2019.

Are you not quite as ready for the adult world as you want to be?

Are you a grown-up who doesn’t feel like one?

Do you know someone else who needs to act like a grown-up?

With humor, occasional bite, and a deep desire to be helpful, How to Act Like a Grown-Up is today’s manual for moving into adulthood. Filled with a mountain of practical advice, it’s a treasure trove of grown-up perspectives that many of us never got to hear on our way to twenty-one.

Author Mark DuPré takes what he’s learned the hard way and lays it all out there to help everyone else move closer to acting like a grown-up.

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Meet Mark

Mark DuPré has done a lot of things, and he gets tired just thinking about it sometimes. He’s been a magazine writer, editor, and industry trainer. Right now he’s a pastor, film professor, speaker, and musician.

He’s motivated by a desire to help all people, especially young ones, become successful adults in every aspect of their lives. Mark has three children and an ever-growing number of grandchildren, even though he is still nineteen in his mind.

He lives with his ever-patient wife, Diane, just outside of Rochester, New York.

Testimonials

“For a good, solid learning experience with a smattering of rich humor, I suggest you take hold of Mark DuPre s How to Act Like a Grown-up. You won t want to put it down until you are finished. I am still smiling.”

Gavin MacLeod – Actor, The Love Boat and The Mary Tyler Moore Show

“Just before reading How to Act Like a Grown-up I had just finished reading an autobiography of Benjamin Franklin, a man who was known for his common-sense proverbs and his everyday wisdom. I feel that Mark s book delivers the same theme. Mark addresses everyday situations with an incredibly clear common-sense approach. It is refreshing, humorous, and practical. I believe that it will serve to help and encourage many of us to put on our adult clothes and stand up as adults. Thank you, Mark, for opening our eyes to the obvious. Compliance to these principles will make the world a better place to live.”

William G. Baxter, M.Ed. – Director of Family Counseling and Mediation Services

“This is a deftly written book whose light touch and humorous tone make its serious message easy and quick to understand. Whether we re young or old, acting like an adult requires knowing and adhering to societal norms, which Mark reminds us are as necessary to individual success as to the success of our civil society. What our parents taught us about appropriate behavior was right, and Mark helps them out by refreshing and updating their advice and reminding all of us about the importance of the social contract and the Golden Rule. And Mark knows what he s talking about as a wildly successful university professor for more than two decades, he knows how to deliver information in a way that is listened to and remembered.”

Dr. Tina Lent – Chair/Professor, Fine Arts Dept., College of Liberal Arts, Rochester Institute of Technology

Being an adult baby involves wearing and using a nappy..

• 3 Jul 2018, 10:58
• Updated : 3 Jul 2018, 13:28

THE Adult Baby/Diaper Lover (ABDL) scene is one that many don’t understand or simply haven’t heard of before.

Here’s everything we know about adult babies..

What are adult babies?

Being an adult baby and everything it involves can vary a lot from person to person.

Typically it will involve an adult dressing up as a baby, wearing and using nappies and being treated like a child.

A common misconception of the fetish is that adult babies are after sexual contact with actual children and babies, which they’re not.

There are actual stores that exist in the US for adult babies which allow them to buy nappies and “baby clothes” but in adult sizes.

What causes them to do it?

The reasoning behind why exactly the fully grown adults decide to dress up and act like children can’t be found in one simple answer.

For some, it’s a method of healing and a way to rid them of childhood trauma.

For others, it’s merely a way to relax and unwind from the tensions of being an adult, and apparently it’s very popular.

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How big is the UK ABDL scene?

The ABDL scene in the UK’s actual size is yet to be confirmed, but there have been reports on adult babies from across Britain.

An Adult Baby Club (ABC) exists in King’s Cross, London, where they host regular parties in a “safe place”.

Parties run on the third Saturday of every month, and it’s for members only.

However, memberships can be bought for £16.

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An adult adoption may occur once the potential adoptee reaches the age of 18 or older. At that time, the only consent required is that of the adult wishing to be adopted and, of course, the person willing to adopt.

Reasons for an Adult Adoption

It’s important to note that adult adoption is different from establishing guardianship. Legal guardianship is intended to help safeguard and provide for an adult who cannot care for him or herself.   Guardians are able to act for the person for whom they provide guardianship, making legal, financial, and health decisions on the individual’s behalf.

Adult adoptions are completed for different reasons:  

• Birth family: An adult adoptee after finding his/her birth family may choose to be adopted by his/her family of origin.
• Foster child: A former foster child who was not being legally available for adoption and grew close to the foster family as a child may be adopted as an adult if they so wish.
• Inheritance: A way to create legal inheritance rights within a relationship.
• Step-child: A step-child who has grown fond of his/her step-parent may be adopted as an adult by the step-parent.

Roadblocks to Adult Adoption

State laws can prohibit adult adoption in several circumstances:

• Age difference: If the particular state requires a specific age difference between the adoptive parent and adopted child.  
• Incest: If the adoptive parent and the adopted adult “child” are involved in a sexual relationship, the state’s incest laws will apply.  
• Legalizing a relationship: Some states, like New York, have determined that adoption laws may not be used to legalize an adult relationship between same-sex partners. Delaware, however, stated that it was okay to use adoption between adults to create inheritance rights if that was the primary purpose of the adoption.  
• Sodomy: If the adoptive parent and adopted adult “child” are involved in a same-sex sexual relationship, sodomy laws will apply.
• Top age: Prohibited by some states (specifically Alabama, Arizona, Nebraska, and Ohio), unless the adoptee meets guidelines which may include a top age of 21.  

Adult Adoption Procedure

Adoption is managed on a state level rather than a federal level.   As a result, each state has its own required forms and documents. Here are the basic steps to follow:

1. Pick up the required documents from your local courthouse.
2. Collect the information you need to fill out the forms, with or without the help of a lawyer. If the person you are adopting is not mentally or physically competent, you may need to fill out additional forms.
3. Fill out and sign the papers in the presence of a notary (most banks have free notary services) and have the notary sign and emboss your paperwork.
4. Submit your paperwork according to the instructions provided.
5. Wait for a court date with Family Court.
6. Appear before a family judge who will decide your case.

As mentioned, there are a number of reasons why a judge might question or deny an adult adoption. The most important concerns are always focused on the needs and rights of the adoptee.   In addition to considering the adoptee’s needs and preferences, the judge will also ensure that all legal requirements have been met.

International Adult Adoptions

It’s far trickier for an American to adopt an adult from another country than it is to adopt an American citizen. Not only must American adoptions laws be considered, but so, too, must immigration laws.  

Adoption is not usually a good way to ensure that an adult will become a United States citizen, and the adoption of international adults can lead to fairly intense scrutiny by government officials.

The U.S. Department of Homeland Security offers extensive information and forms on its website, and also offers this information for U.S. Citizens and Permanent Residents:

“To begin the immigration process for your adopted relative (as described above), file Form I-130, Petition for Alien Relative. For information about where to file, see the Direct Filing Addresses for Form I-130. For information on what supporting evidence to submit, see the Instructions for Form I-130 (PDF, 233 KB).”  

For more detailed legal information on this process see Section 101(b)(1)(E) of the Immigration and Nationality Act and Title 8 Code of Federal Regulations 8 CFR 204.2(d)(2).

A twenty-something trying to act like an adult (sometimes)

27 Everyday Decisions that Twenty-Somethings Are Really Bad At Making

We all can definitely relate to most of these, or in my case all of these. Especially number 2 which is why I made it the link to this great post on buzz feed. Happy Friday!

John Daly Jell-O Shots

Looking for something new and exciting to bring to your next party or get together? Well this is just the thing – let me tell you! These John Daly Jell-O shots were a hit last weekend at a pool party my boyfriend and I went to. What is a John Daly you ask? Why, it’s only my favorite alcoholic drink ever! And it is sure to be yours too once you try it. A John Daly is Arnold Palmer (iced-tea and lemonade) with the vodka of your choice. Arnold Palmer and John Daly were both famous golfers and John Daly was always known for liking the drink. So it’s only natural that the alcoholic version of an Arnold Palmer be named a John Daly. 🙂

Everyone was asking how we did it and if there were any more! They disappeared in two hours! And may I add that these were extremely simple to make? That’s my kinda party dish. We bought the ingredients at the last minute the night before and they turned out great! We bought the fun, bright serving tray (in my favorite color) for $5 at our local grocery store and voila!

They do have to sit in the refrigerator overnight (just like any other Jell-O) so definitely make them the night before, or even a couple of days before the day you want to serve them. Cheers! 🙂

John Daly Jello Shots:
Makes about 50

1/2 cup lemonade
1/2 cup of tea
(Or you can replace that with 1 cup of AriZona brand Arnold Palmer like I did)
2-3 tablespoons sugar
2 tablespoons fresh squeezed lemon juice
1.5 packets lemon flavored gelatin
2/3 cup vodka (we did a little more than 2/3 cup to ensure a good time ;))
1 Bag of Lemons (If you want to make more than 50 shots I would suggest getting a second bag of lemons and doubling the recipe)

1. Pour tea & lemonade (or Arnold Palmer) into small sauce pan, stir in lemon juice & sugar. Pour in gelatin & allow to sit a minute or two.
2. Heat on medium low, stirring occasionally until sugar & gelatin have completely dissolved. Remove from heat.
3. Stir in alcohol.
4. Cut lemons in half and remove insides AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.
5. Place lemon halves in a muffin tray or something that will keep them stable. I placed paper towels and foil in the bottom of each one to help keep them from moving around too much. The foil seemed to work best.
6. Pour mixture into lemon halves carefully.
7. Let sit at least 4 hours in the refrigerator or over night.
8. Once chilled, use a straight edge knife to cut into the halves and make little wedges. I ended up with 2-3 wedges per half.

I’m always misunderstood :/

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I know how u feel. I’m practically taking care of my parents but they treat me like im a kid. So my advice try to prove that ur an adult and if ur 15 and younger then thats ur answer.in there eyes ur still a child but if ur 16 and start to drive then ur an adult no matter what anyone says.

I know what you mean i am going through the same thing. They treat you ike a child to protect you and they want to hold onto you yet they try to make you act likie an adult to be responsible and teach you life long lessons, its hard, i know..

People think that as the time passes they have grow up and now have become adult. But they are still a child a small child for their parents. Perhaps you would have good knowledge but your parents are more knowledgeable than you. So always respect your parents.

because its a paradox. Society creates these so you can’t do anything about it.

Here are some more parodoxes:

You can’t get a job without experience, and you can’t get experience without a job.

Childhood shapes our subconscious mind, but this helps us to think for ourselves

Without law and order, man has no freedom

If you want peace, you must prepare for war

Your damned if you do, and your damned if you don’t

I admit it, I am not an organised person. I obsessively read up on life hacks and tips to pretend I have my life under control and every time I get distracted or forget something.

How am I supposed to sort my life out when every episode of Community is on Netflix?

Thankfully, technology isn’t just there to distract and I have found a number of organisation apps to help me get things in order. So much so that I can actually pass for an adult in some aspects of my life now.

1. DO Notes by IFTTT

DO Notes is an app by the brilliant IFTTT (or If This Then That) team.

If This Then That’s flagship product allows you to set up rules (or recipes) to dictate your online life. For example, if you want to auto-tweet whenever you post to Facebook, you can – although you probably shouldn’t…

As the name suggests, DO Notes allows you to “Do” basically anything. From updating social media, adding to your to do list, sending emails, changing the lights and temperature at home.

DO Notes wants to rule every aspect of your life… Kind of like those wheelchairs in Wall-E.

2. Pushbullet

Unless you’re a complete fanatic, the chances are your phone, tablet and laptop are all running on different operating systems.

In which case you’ll know the pain of having to email things between devices and have likely been caught out when you come to find the latest version of that blog post you’ve been working on is on your laptop… which you left at home.

Pushbullet lets you bridge the gap allowing you to quickly transfer links and pictures between your devices and makes it one of my favourite organisation apps on the list.

3. Keyring

Got more loyalty cards than actual money in your wallet?

I did, and before I discovered Keyring I actually abandoned my wallet in favour of just carrying a bankcard loose in my pocket. This resulted in me snapping my debit card and missing out on valuable Bar Burrito points.

Some companies have adopted apps to replace their points cards already but for those that don’t, Keyring lets you register your existing cards and swipe your phone to gain your points. Leaving your wallet free for all the money you don’t have.

4. Cozi

Ok, so you’ve started getting your own life in check but your family won’t get on board?

Cozi not only lets you keep tabs on your own calendar but also schedule activities for your family.

So long, “where are you?” text messages!

5. Ziplist

Congratulations! Your digital life is now under control but if you really want to pass for an adult, you need to eat like one.

No, that doesn’t mean you have to survive off bran flakes. It means getting your shopping list in order and actually planning meals instead of buying whichever frozen pizza is on offer that week.

Ziplist is a grocery list app with a database of over 300,000 recipes. These organisation apps allow you to select recipes rather than individual items and then adds all the necessary ingredients into your basket. Now all you need to do is cook.

6. 1Password

Sorry, the password you entered is incorrect. Lost your password?

If you’re anything like me, you’ve got a list of passwords assigned your online life depending on who your favourite band was the year you set up your account.

You can’t even run through your list of common passwords due to endless resets that don’t allow you to use the old password.

1Password lets you add all of your accounts into a one account, then you only need to remember how to access your 1Password account!

You can even store bank details and personal data in it.

7. YNAB (You Need A Budget)

The true sign of an adept adult human, is proper financial independence.

As you’ve probably guessed by the name, You Need A Budget is a budgeting app. You start by defining how much money you have and how you would like to spend it over the month (eg. food, nights out, candles…).

You’ll still need a bit of willpower but if you stick to the rules, you can be the master of your own overdraft.

8. Pocket

One of the biggest cruxes to me getting stuff done is not getting distracted by links from Reddit. With Pocket, I can save any interesting links to my Pocket account to return to at a more convenient time and is well deserving of being awarded one of the best organisation apps.

9. Freedom

Depending on how much you trust yourself to use Pocket, you might be better off with Freedom.

Freedom is an internet and app blocker, you can use it on your phone, tablet or computer and it will prevent you from accessing social media, news or anything else that might distract you from getting work done

Sen. Joe Manchin on Monday brushed off the stream of insults hurled at him by President Donald Trump, offering the president some stern advice: Grow up.

© Patrick Semansky/AP Photo Sen. Joe Manchin.

“I expect — every American and myself would like my president and our president to act like a responsible adult, and he’s not,” Manchin told CNN’s “New Day.” “For the sake of the country, I hope he does.”

Manchin’s retort followed three straight days of attacks by the president on Twitter as part of his broader campaign against those who supported his impeachment. Trump launched insults against the West Virginia Democrat’s intelligence, labeling him a “puppet” of the Democratic Party and referring to him as Joe “Munchkin.”

Manchin had been considered among the likeliest Democrats in the Senate to break with his party and vote against Trump’s removal from office, especially after the senator floated the idea of a censure of the president instead. But ultimately, Manchin has said, he found the evidence that Trump abused his office and obstructed Congress’ investigation “overwhelming.”

The West Virginia lawmaker, who votes with Trump more often than any other Democrat in the Senate, on Monday fired off what appeared to be a warning at the president.

“Here’s the thing. I’m his best chance of having anything in a bipartisan way,” the senator said.

In an interview on MSNBC later Monday, Manchin swatted back more forcefully at Trump’s “Munchkin” moniker and Trump’s assertion that the senator “couldn’t understand the Transcripts” of events at the center of the impeachment inquiry.

“First of all, the munchkin, I’m taller than him, I think, a little bit bigger than he is,” he quipped. “Not heavier — he’s much heavier than me, but I’m a little taller than him so I guess he got that little bit off.”

Manchin added that he didn’t know Trump’s intent when the president referenced the transcripts.

“I hope he wasn’t referring to because I’m from West Virginia, that we can’t understand or comprehend,” he said. “I think we do a pretty good job of that, and I understood it very well. I read it and I understood it.”

But he also said that while he expected Trump’s broadsides, he would not stoop to the level of name-calling that Trump had.

“Do you think names bother me? Do I look like I’m small and fragile?” he asked. “Names don’t bother me. The president knows he can’t get to me that way. I’m not going to retaliate.”

He continued: “The people want a mature adult — that’s what the president should be. That’s who we want as our president. I want him to succeed. This is not personal with me. I mean, he can call me all the names he wants to. It makes him look like an immature adult. I hope he rises above that. I think it’s best for our country.”

Manchin also bemoaned conservatives’ fury toward those who crossed Trump throughout the impeachment inquiry, including two impeachment witnesses who were removed from their administration posts and Sen. Mitt Romney, the only Republican to vote for the president’s removal. Romney in particular has faced significant backlash from Trump and others in the GOP over his vote.

“It’s hard to believe we’ve stooped this low,” Manchin said of the Romney fallout.

“We’re separated enough,” he told MSNBC. “We have a divider in chief. What we need is a uniter in chief and I hope the president comes back to that.”

Still, he expressed confidence that the country would bounce back from this period of partisan animosity.

“I believe in our country, I believe in my state of West Virginia as Mitt believes in Utah. Good people. And good people finally come — basically they can only pull the wool over their eyes so long,” he said. “I hope the president changes his ways, I hope he becomes a responsible adult and I hope he succeeds. I’m going to work with him if we can, but I’m going to be an honest broker.”